prison 3/5/2009 3:33am
PITY. this is the most unfair reason to save a relationship. this usually happens when one loves more than the other (which is probably the usual case). nobody deserves to be pitied. everyone, i guess even the lowest of sorts need some dignity and respect. if you are staying because you pity the other person who loves you more that you love him/her, you are not only degrading him/her, you are also taking advantage.
GUILT. in a relationship, i guess this feeling is normal sometimes. you are not perfect. you probably feel this from time to time especially when you unconciously/accidentally hurt the person you love. but, here’s the thing, if you stay because you feel guilty about something and you don’t want to be blamed, then you are staying for the wrong reasons. relationships are commitments. you commit to love not to feel bad about yourself nor the other person. you will falter. you will make mistakes. however, when you continuously do the same mistakes over and over again, then probably you are doing it because whatever was there before was already lost, you shouldn’t be sorry, you should be honest to yourself and to the other person.
CONVENIENCE. yes you’ve been together for a while. time has tested you. the experiences were inevitable. you have learned. you have grown…but you’re stuck… why? because you are afraid of change… if you are staying because it is convenient, it is easier to deal with than face the unknown, if you are staying because you are afraid to function alone, if you are staying because you have become dependent of each other, if you are staying because it is safe and you are secure, then shame on you, THIS IS THE MOST SELFISH REASON OF ALL.
stay because there is a smile on your face everytime you wake up in the morning knowing that you are going to face it with someone you love
stay because you feel peaceful everytime you look at his/her face
stay because even if you are happy being alone, you know you are happier sharing your life with someone else
stay because you can laugh, cry, shout without worry
stay because you still feel free even with the limitations
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stay only if it doesn’t feel like you’re in prison
June 10th, 2009 at 11:44 am
It isn’t healthy spiritualy to continue to live in pity over someone but understand the true source of compassion and the unconditional Love that a Mother has for her Son or Daughter, even in illness, that Love is nourishment.
There is always guilt when you know you have wronged someone close to you and the best way to work through that guilt is by listening, talking about the mistakes and communication. Forgiving provides the healing and yes honesty is great when you Trust your partner.
I don’t stay for convenience, I dislike even handling money, I’m not living the luxury of denial. Stuck is not good when wisdom awaits a higher good.
I accept me and was never selfish. I lack understanding of why my partner decided to surround herslef around negativity and destructive partners when
Love was banging on her door.
I don’t want to stay, I prefer to Go. She is vegan after all and I do love and appreciate a good meal together. Someone special told me alone stinks, and she is right.